Keeping it Small
There is a good reason fathers cringe when they hear their darling daughters are going to go big for their wedding. Big, formal weddings can be extremely expensive. You could pay upwards of $30,000 on a single wedding. Imagine what that money could buy, like a new home for you and your spouse or a new car. You can still have your dream wedding, without the huge expense by scaling back and keeping it small. Don’t feel pressured into going big. It is your day and likely your money, so do what you feel is best.
If you are keen on saving your money for bigger things, then you need to decide on having a small wedding right from the very get go. Every decision you make about flowers, catering and even the venue will be affected by your decision to scale back. In fact, you can skip several of the traditional items on a wedding checklist when you opt to have a small wedding. Can you already see the dollar signs adding up in your bank account? If you are not going for the big traditional major production, you can skip professional catering, large fancy flower arrangements and even the huge cake. On the other hand, you can choose to go big on flowers and go small on the cake or vice versa. It is totally up to you! That is the major perk of planning your own wedding.
After you have decided to keep it small, your next step will be deciding what small means. Is small 20 guests or 50 guests? Once you and your groom have decided on the number of people who will be invited to your wedding, you can really start to budget. Please know this can be a bit stressful if you have a big, extended family and a lot of friends and co-workers who assumed they would get an invite. Picking and choosing can be difficult, but if you keep it limited to “key” members of your immediate family and your best friend, it is possible. Consider throwing a laid-back party after the wedding for all of those who couldn’t attend the ceremony. Most people will understand the reasons for you keeping your wedding small.
Small weddings have a number of advantages. With the money saved on throwing a small reception rather than a big one, you could possibly plan a destination wedding for you and your small group of guests. A night in Vegas or a little resort in the woods somewhat close to your home is much more affordable when you are planning on 20 people versus 100. If you have always dreamed of having your wedding on a beach in Hawaii with the sun setting behind you and you are only planning on inviting a handful of people, go for it!
Ultimately, it is your wedding and you can do as you please. You may have to smooth some ruffled feathers, but you are doing what is best for you and your budget. Going into debt to please other people is silly. Your wedding is your special day and if you are the one paying for it, it is totally up to you to decide how you spend your hard-earned cash.